Weddings

Planning a wedding can be an amazing time in a couple’s life — but it certainly has its moments.  With endless lists of things to do, decisions to make and family dynamics to deal with, the whole period can become overwhelming (to say the least!).

With so much to do, planning the ceremony can sometimes fall to the bottom of the list.  Instead of looking at the ceremony as another item on your list, why not invest some time and enjoy planning it?

While the Jewish wedding ceremony is filled with symbols and traditions that can be hard to navigate (especially when they are in Hebrew or Yiddish), JLife Consulting will help guide you through the maze and will:

  • Refer you to an officiant who will be the right one for you (if you don’t already have one)*
  • Walk you through the rituals of the Jewish wedding – the preparation, the ceremony itself, and the weeks afterward
  • Help you plan each ritual of your wedding ceremony

After an initial complimentary phone session in which we will get to know each other, we will decide how many times we would like to meet and which of the following sessions would be the most beneficial for you…

Uncovering the Mystery: The Who, What, Where and Why of the Jewish Wedding — learn about the structure and meaning of the Jewish wedding ritual as a basis to talk about the vision for your wedding.

Ketubah: a Vision of your Marriage — explore the history, structure and content of classical and modern Ketubot (marriage contracts) and Tenaim documents (literally, “conditions”) as a step toward helping you select or create your own.

Betrothal (Erusin) and Nuptuals (Nisuin): Contract and Blessing, the “Core”of the Wedding Ceremony — learn how the customs of these two ceremonies evolved and how they are understood today. Explore ways in which your commitment to each other may reflect these central ideas.

Surrounding Rituals — understand the history and traditions associated with Aufruf (being called to the Torah), separation, fasting, Kabbalat Panim and Tisch (Bride and Groom’s receptions), Badeken (ceremony before the Chuppah), and Yichud (privacy following the ceremony). 

Breaking the Glass: Sacred Arguing and Conflict — explore the multiple meanings that have been given to breaking the glass and how it can be understood as a reflection of the tenuousness in our own relationships.  Through a practical discussion, explore your style of negotiating conflict and learn skills for its management.

Mikvah: Holiness and Family Life — reflect upon the cycle of closeness and distance in marital relationships through the lens of mikvah (ritual bath).  Ideas for planning pre-wedding mikvah excursions can serve as an alternative bachelor or bachelorette gathering with close friends and family.

Chuppah: Entering Your Jewish Home — envision your Jewish home as a married couple.  What roles do you anticipate taking? Think creatively about the Jewish calendar in ways that the rhythm of the Jewish year can create a ‘sanctuary in time’ to enrich your home life.

*If you already have an officiant, I will contact them at the start of our work together so that I understand the details of the ceremony at which they will officiate. Please note that my role is to offer a complementary, not competitive service to your officiant.

Photo Credit: Alisa Grace Photography

"Within minutes of our first session, Dasee made me and my fiance feel comfortable and at ease. She appropriately gauged our level of knowledge, and brought us through the textual and historical backgrounds of a traditional wedding ceremony—all with her wonderful warmth, humor, and utter lack of judgement. Dasee offered creative and innovative possibilities for the wedding ceremony while simultaneously getting a sense of who we are and what we value. Not only did we leave with a solid grounding in Jewish wedding tradition, but, quite honestly, we left bubbling with excitement about the various ways we could make this wedding into our Wedding."

- Engaged Couple